Bad Person Or Not: That Is The Question

A lot of times we come across mean people in our lives. You know, the bullies, the b****es and the a******s. (Excuse the language, but I've been told these are common slang words these days, and they're the EXACT words used by people to describe the kind of jerks I'm talking about here. Otherwise, I follow a strict rule not to use such unparliamentary words.)

 

We've all come across people who made our life hell at some point or another. But my question is this: are they really like that on purpose? Is EVERY single bad thing a person does to another person intended? I mean, I get that there are a few sadistic people who really DO enjoy hurting others and enjoying the 'fun'. But not everyone does this right?

 

You're probably confused. Let me explain.

 

I always try to be a good person. A NICE person. Friendly, sweet, helpful, caring, et cetera. But despite the fact that I never try to hurt anyone, I find that there have been a few times when I HAVE hurt someone! And it's surprised me every time, really, because people who know me should know better than to take my exaggerations and sarcasm seriously! And every time, I realize that, though it was not intentional, that person doesn't know that and probably hates me. And all of a sudden I'm a bad person.

 

THE GUILT! IT KILLS ME!!!

 

And that's just the few times I REALIZED I hurt the other person! Imagine how many people would have hidden their hurt? No, seriously, think about it. The number times you have felt bad about something someone did or said, and kept quiet. That's about how many people, give or take a few hundred, that YOU may have hurt in your lifespan so far.

 

Let me just take a moment to say to all of my haters out there that I'm sorry for any wrong I have done you. My deepest apologies.

 

When people hurt other people, there are chances that it wasn't meant like that at all. Unless they have a motive such as revenge.   

 

So what needs to be done?

 

Two things.

One, try to be more sensitive to other people. And if you realize you've acted contemptuously, apologize IMMDEIATELY.

Two, hone your powers of forgiveness. That's right, forgiveness. Why? Because the sooner we LET GO of things, the happier we'll be. Forgive and forget. That's the way to go.

The more conscious we are of how we affect the people around us, the sooner we start to build a better place on Earth.

The next time someone's given you the cold shoulder, ponder over the possibility that it may not have been intended. Don't jump to conclusions that the person is ignoring you or hates you or something.  Do not plot revenge.

And if it IS intentional.... well you go out there and show him/her how the game is really played!